Relate
BUILD RESILIENT BONDS
As you no longer seek approval by dominant others or dim your light out of fear of failing or attracting envy, your relationships will likely change for the better. You feel free to separate from people who disrespect you and are equipped to work on your significant relationships. You are leading yourself from your wise compassionate heart.
Step 4: Relate
- Boundaried & Connected
- Communicating Courageously
- Leading From Your Wise Heart, Not Burdened Parts
The Process
You will be more of your Self. You will feel lighter, happier and more at peace with yourself. The need to perform or prove yourself is replaced by you more fully being and doing you. At this point, you could stop and retire happily from personal development. However, your peace will soon be disturbed by one of those 8 billion people we share this planet with and trigger exiled parts or test the limit of your love and compassion. This is where we get to realize that self-compassion is not an end but a means to an end. It helps us to come into our heart energy and to stay there when we are in relationship.
Unless you have decided to live as a hermit, the human-to-human relational field is the only area through which you can further grow in earth-bound, practical wisdom and compassion. Due to our sentient and sensitive natures this is a dynamic dance of losing our centre and cool and then consciously regaining our balance, poise and perspective only to lose it again! As we own more of our parts triggered uniquely in relationships, we eventually “make partners” as true equals and are free to choose how and with whom to relate. On this foundation of self-awareness and inner freedom we can train to build resilient and satisfying relationships in which we hold space for each other to heal and be healed, to debate differing opinions and to co-create and innovate.
Compassion for Your Parts
THE SESSIONS EXPLAINED
Compassion warms up our inner landscape. It reveals more of our parts to us that make up our personality and that we love and those that are still burdened and weigh us down. In romantic relationships all those burdened parts get easily triggered as they long to be liberated through the love of our partner.
I offer individual and couple sessions using Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) to help you develop compassion for your parts. We will work with protective and exiled parts to witness and unburden them. You will learn to to speak for your parts instead of from them even when you are triggered. You will strengthen your compassionate and wise Self from which you can lead your life in a more empowered and heart-centred way. When we develop emotional intimacy with ourselves, we are capable of emotional intimacy with our partner.
Does a part need your compassion?
Resilient Relating
THE ADVANCED PROGRAMME EXPLAINED
My new Resilient Relating Programme provides you practical skills training for conscious, caring and constructive relating.
All exercises take place in dyads allowing you to put into practice all your compassion-based parts work thus far. Sitting face-to-face with another human being you will be guided to lay the foundations for heart-based supportive and honest communication. Next you will train to fully establish a resilient relational field and to use it to hold space for each other, to have genuine dialogue and to co-create from collective wisdom. In addition to growing in genuine compassion for others, you will learn to face conflict by holding multiple perspectives in mind instead of getting stuck in right or wrong. You will learn to communicate your perceptions more courageously and trust that connections built on good will can endure differences of perception and opinion. Finally, we learn to tap the collective wisdom of the relational field to arrive at solutions that we could not have arrived at on our own. Our loving connectedness matures and is ready to impact our world in our unique and personal way.
Contact me for inhouse offerings in English of this 2-day advanced programme.